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What is the Key to happiness?

The world today is plagued by so many problems.  Life has become so much stressful these days. In the run for materialistic luxuries, we often fail to think and fulfill the needs of our soul. And what is the result of all these? We have acquired most of the materialistic luxuries of the modern world but our soul still cries and craves something to get attached to. Something which gives us peace, a moral security, something to hold on!

   We all have gone through many rough patches in our lives. Life is not at all a bed of roses; rather most of the time the path appears to be full of thorns. In the words of the great poet Shelley, we all fall upon the thorns of life and we bleed. Since childhood, we all experience fear, pressure, stress and failures in many forms. And with time, the magnitude of these problems increase manifold. Childhood days get over very fast and the days of youth come knocking the door! Love is in the air. But that too, is not a child’s game. Every couple starts their relationship with dreams of an ideal one. But most of them end breaking up. They part their ways, promising themselves and each other not to face each other again in lifetime. This has become a routine affair in our lives. With childhood gone, comes the responsibilities; more stress and pressure. Along with that, comes guilt from the past, prangs of broken dreams and ambitions. Life becomes a living hell all of a sudden. Some, failing to compensate with these, feel the need to end their lives. No wonder, the rates of suicides have been on the rise as compared to past few years. Gradually comes the old age. With it, comes life full of guilt and sorrow. And ultimately we end up unhappy till the grave.

        What is the solution? To refrain and abandon everything and get on a jungle safari,being a monk? There is a more simple way than that. The one word solution to this life long problem is SURRENDER. No, I am not asking to surrender or yield in front of the circumstances. Rather, take up the sword of life and fight with the sorrows with full strength! But there are times, when we feel low, dejected, out of form. That time we are reminded once again that not everything can be bought by money and not everything can be achieved by material comforts. The craving for soul is eternal. As I said earlier, to attach with something or someone who can put a balm of relief over our wounds. Someone whose love dictates us, goads us to good. Someone whose love never falls short irrespective of how many times we ignore His wishes or act against His path. That “someone” is the pivot of our life. The central point, the ideal. Following Him gives us relief. Obeying His commands, gives us pleasure and saves us from many different complexes and dangers in life. As I have said earlier in one of my prior articles, that we encounter sorrows in life whenever we get away from the Ideal and be a servant to the complexes. So, naturally Ideal can not be just any Tom, Dick or Harry! The Ideal must be Himself above the complexes, free from boundaries and limitations of materialistic affairs. A drowning man can only be saved by a person standing on the shore. The one, who is himself drowning can not save another man’s life. The ideals are such “lights of God” ; the love incarnate, the “Christs” as I said. Following the commands of such great men, we understand what love is, what life is. Their commandments are like handbooks to learn the art of living. To enjoy this beautiful gift of life gifted by God. These lights of God, are the ideals. The same spirit, the same light shines through many different forms, each according to time, place and circumstances. Krishna, Rama, Buddha, Jesus, Prophet Muhammed all are the lights of God. The same light is transmitted throughout the globe in the form of their love. They can not be bounded or limited by organizations, sects or vested interests of people. If we desire to be truly happy, we must at first, surrender ourselves to the Ideal. To submit our will to God, by walking upon the path shown by the ideal is the key to be happy. 

Without this simple way, there can not be any other path to happiness.

Also see my earlier post Secrets of Happiness.

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How To Channelize the complexes?

What are complexes? They are certain passions or urges which are present in all of us and play an important role in almost every small and large event of our life. They are seen as “evils” or hurdles in the path of spiritual practice.

Interestingly if we closely observe we shall see that these complexes or passions, if utilized properly may bring in a great change in our lives.
         We, the humans are by birth under the action or interplay of a variety of complexes.The major forms of complexes are namely Lust, Anger,Pride, Greed,Infatuation and Envy. These six major vices are considered the greatest of all and these are the complexes which give birth to most of the problems we face. No one is free from the clutches of these complexes.Friends become enemies. Family becomes foe when man falls a prey to these passions. To win over these is actually a herculean task which is almost impossible for the common man. We can never control the complexes but we can surely channelize their powers and utilize them for good. Everything in the universe is an amazing interplay of various forms of energy. The creative force manifests itself in many different and beautiful ways! Complexes too, are forms of energy. The upsurge, the outbursts of complexes are actually storehouses of energy and power. If we adhere to a Guru,  a spiritual guide and try following his principles, we can surely adjust them for good.

   The best way to deal with the sudden upsurges of passions is to deviate them and adjust them for constructive purpose rather than to waste them. Engage yourself in creative activities. Start painting a picture, write something or sing! Do whatever you can! Dance till your complexes start wearing out!  Do whatever you can but deviate the track of complexes. Read a good book. Tell a story. Anything you can do to control the upsurges of passions.Gradually with time, comes the self control. But that needs practice. Try  and explore what are the gifts and skills which the Lord almighty has blessed us with! Meditation is an effective method for adjusting the complexes.

        Complex is like a servant. To have it under control renders us with a storehouse of energy. Untapped raw power! But the same power can outrun us and can be even fatal if not adjusted! They are like a strong current or force of water. It can not be stopped but can surely be changed in direction of flow. It is up to us that how do we utilize it! This is where the secret of happiness lies.