Category Archives: self help

CREATING POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT WITHIN AND WITHOUT

Once upon a time happiness wasn’t  subjected to a matter of occasion. People used to be happy naturally. Actually happiness is something already inherent in us. It’s one of the many emotions which is engraved in our very being. Sorrow or grief on the other hand is a temporary phase, which passes on, comes and go with time. that’s the reason our saying goes like “time heals”. Our mind has the potential  to heal itself from any kind of traumatic experience it counters during the clashes and conflicts we face almost everyday.  One may question that happiness too is just an emotion. It too shall pass with time, just like any other emotion. But in actual terms it is not so. Ever had a chance to read or view an interview of a creative writer or a song composer? The thing which is common among all of them is that they love their job and are happy within. It won’t be an exaggeration to say that their inner happiness manifests itself in their writing, work of art or song. They contemplate upon a certain aspect of a story or a song for days or even months at end and then, all of a sudden they  come across that golden line which adds a new color and value to their work. This is happiness or let’s say a form of it. It’s not necessary that happiness would always manifest itself with an intense form of ecstasy or euphoric outcry.  It may find meaningfulness in various activities and creative work.

          Also in a converse way, the activities bring us happiness. Both are interrelated. The feeling or satisfaction one gains after successful completion of a particular task fills us with joy and satisfaction. Many psychologists would agree that in the treatment protocol patients suffering from sleep disorders and depression, the role of creative activities is beyond doubt. Listening to music, singing a few lines along, reading your favorite book or painting, all  may contribute to our happiness.

We can ourselves create an environment which is free from sorrow. Smile at a stranger passing by you in the morning. Wish that old man a very good morning. give a candy or two to that child near the subway. Buy a flower from that old lady and then gift it back to her. Try helping a needy or feed a hungry. All these acts of kindness are actually small steps towards happiness.  If you want to be happy, make others happy.  Our existence is not separate from our environment. Rather, without our environment our own being is incomplete. The love, the joy which we seek for, has to be transmitted to our surroundings at first. The joy of giving, of doing something good for the needy is much more long lasting than that soccer match which you watched the last weekend.

      Happiness, as I said earlier is very much inherent in us. The only thing needed is a stimulus to make it bloom.

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I TRUST YOU!

Hi there! Its been a long time since I last posted. Hope you all are doing fine. The past few days have been a roller coaster ride for me in some sorts. Many changes took place in my life which has and will continue to exert a lasting impression on my whole life.

We all face such situations in life, which change the whole perspective of life altogether. A moment, a fraction of second is what it takes to change everything. Being a worshiper of existence, I am ever optimistic. Yeah, we all have gone through that rough patch. The harsh reality of life. We all have gone through that phase when we crumble down by the weight of our own failures, guilt and mistakes. There are times when we desperately pray that this phase we are going through isn’t true. Let this be just a nightmare. We’ll wake up one fine morning to find out that it was all a bad dream. But no, somewhere in our hearts we are aware of this brutal fact that this is true. This is life, verily the life in its true colors.  It is at that particular moment when we realize that we are all alone. We search for shoulders to cry on, people who would sympathize us, pacify us. We search for people who would trust us. But in that desert of sorrow, we feel alone, deprived and lost.

  WHAT IS TO BE DONE?

     Wait, watch and take care. Right now, you feel you are all alone. You think that in this war, you are fighting all alone, but its not true. I am with you. We are with you and we all trust you. That harassment you faced while going to work, that mistake for which your boss abused you so much, that  failure which still haunts you, trust me we all have faced and some of us are still facing these things You worry over the failed relationship you broke up  with, last week? Well congrats! It made you strong. There’s nothing which can’t be fixed if tried real hard. There’s nothing wrong in committing mistakes. Mistakes give you an excellent lesson and a gem to utilize in the later period. It gives us the gift of EXPERIENCE! With perseverance and experience, any man can bring down empires.

Do mistakes, but learn from them. Utilize them as your experience. Grab the opportunities by both hands and brush aside all the negative thoughts that stand between you and your objective. Remove all the negative elements from your life which deters you in any way.

 Above all,  have faith in GOD. HE trusts you. Remember, It took the perseverance and workmanship of the Supreme Being to create a masterpiece like you! you are special and I have complete faith on you.

    I TRUST YOU.

    WE TRUST YOU.

So my dear friend! get up, wear your armor and strike again. The war of life isn’t over yet!